When & Where to Send Sympathy Flowers

Understanding funeral flower etiquette is important. Talking with a professional florist can help answer your questions. The family and friends who have lost a loved one will appreciate your appropriate expression of sympathy.

Timing

Ideally flowers should be sent to the funeral home, church or mortuary prior to the first visitation hours. If for whatever reason, your flowers cannot be delivered early, they should be delivered before any additional visitations. Delivering flowers just as the visitation hours are ending or rushing them to the graveside is considered a faux pas as it tends to cause inconvenience.

Location

Deliver flowers to the residence of the bereaved family members. This is especially true if you are closer to a member of the family than you were to the deceased person. It is considered good etiquette to send flowers to the homes of family members up to a month after the funeral. This shows them that they are still in your thoughts and is very comforting.

Consider the place where you are sending the flowers. If they are going to the funeral home, you may want to make your bouquet a sheaf. Sending a basket or a vase may be more suitable if it is sent to the home of one of the family members.

In Lieu of Flowers

Sometimes family members consider a charitable donation in memory of the deceased person to be more appropriate than flowers. Notice of this is usually contained in the funeral announcement. Irrespective of what you wish to do, it is always good etiquette to abide by the wishes of the family.

Local Traditions

Local traditions should be considered when sending sympathy flowers. The flower color is important, especially in Asian communities, with white being the safest color to send. Yellow chrysanthemums are a funeral flower to Japanese, Chinese, and Koreans. The Chinese prefer cut flowers (especially yellow and white chrysanthemums). Take the time to find out about the traditions of the family members so as not to unknowingly cause hurt at this time.

Funerals and the days immediately after are fraught with emotions. Solidarity and support during this time are cherished. Let sensitivity to the feelings of the surviving family members be your guide in deciding what kind of flowers to send as a means of expressing your sympathy.

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